By Jack Canfield, The Success Principles

The little boy asked the worker what they made at his employment. The man answered, “What do we make where I work? Mostly we make excuses.”

Is that a part of your life? Are you blaming an event for your lack of results?

TRUTH: IF YOU DON’T LIKE YOUR OUTCOMES, CHANGE YOUR RESPONSES.

Example:

Event: You are given a $1,000 bonus.

Response:  You spend it on a night on the town.

Outcome: You are broke.

Event: You are given a $1,000 bonus.

Response: You invest it in your mutual fund.

Outcome: You have an increased net worth.

You only have control over three things in your life-the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take (your behavior). How you use these three things determines everything you experience. If you don’t like what you are producing and experiencing, you have to change your responses.

TRUTH: YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP BLAMING

You’ll never become successful as long as you continue to blame someone or something else for your lack of success.

  • You are the one who ate the junk food.
  • You are the one who didn’t say no!
  • You are the one who took the job.
  • You are the one who stayed in the job.
  • You are the one who chose to believe them.
  • You are the one who ignored your intuition.
  • You are the one who abandoned your dream.
  • You are the one who bought it.
  • You are the one who didn’t take care of it.
  • You are the one who decided you had to do it alone.
  • You are the one who trusted him.
  • You are the one who said yes to the dogs.

TRUTH: YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP COMPLAINING

In order to complain about something or someone, you have to believe that something better exists. You have to have a reference point of something you prefer that you are not willing to take responsibility for creating.

People only complain about things they can do something about. We don’t complain about things we have no power over. Have you ever heard of someone complaining about gravity? But why not?

If it weren’t for gravity, people wouldn’t fall down the stair, planes wouldn’t fall out of the sky, and we wouldn’t break any dishes. But nobody complains about it.  We know that complaining wouldn’t solve the problem.

Even more interesting is that we choose to play with gravity! We have fun with it. We ski, sky-dive, high-jump, throw the discus and the javelin, and play basketball, baseball, and golf-all of which require gravity.

The circumstances you complain about are, by their very nature, situations you can change-but you have chosen not to.

Based on the list above, taking responsibility you could;

  • Learn to eat healthier food
  • Say no in the face of peer pressure.
  • Quit and find a better job.
  • Take the time to conduct due diligence.
  • Trust your own gut feelings.
  • Go back to school to pursue your dream.
  • Take better care of you possessions.
  • Reach out for help.
  • Ask others to assist you.
  • Take a self-development class.
  • Sell or give away the dogs.

But why don’t you simply do those things? It’s because they involve risks. You run the risk of being unemployed, left alone, or ridiculed and judged by others.  You run the risk of failure, confrontation, or being wrong. You run the risk of your mother, your neighbors, or your spouse disapproving of you. Making a change might take effort, money, and time. It might be uncomfortable, difficult, or confusing. And so, to avoid risking any of those uncomfortable feelings and experiences, you stay put and complain about it.

TRUTH: YOU EITHER CREATE OR ALLOW EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS TO YOU.

To be powerful, you need to take the position that you create or allow everything that happens to you. By create, I mean that you directly cause something to happen by your actions or inaction.

By Jack Canfield, The Success Principles

About the Author Michael Lantz (Big Papa)

The Wellness Warrior™; Health & Leadership/Business Coach, Speaker, Blogger, Author, Ironman Triathlete Helping others live with more health and joy, paying for their dreams and make a difference in the world! Learn more: http://HealthIsAHabit.live

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