the-gift-cover-1I’ve read some great eye opening books in my life but The Gifts of Imperfection has to rate at or near the top.

The sub-title is so appropriate as well, Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.

The author, Brene’ Brown Ph.D., describes how she used her research about shame to make discoveries about herself. She discovered two broad categories of people. Those who lived a “Wholehearted” life and OWNED THEIR STORY and those that lived through shame and do not take responsibility for their story.

What was so eyeopening for me is that I too discovered how in many aspects of my own life I was not in ownership of my story. As a result, like others who lived with shame, I was trying to act as I thought people wanted me to act so I would be worthy of belonging. I had all the symptoms of living my life in shame by trying to please others. I felt I had to perform and be perfect. I was labeled a perfectionist my whole life and I finally understood why.

I loved her definition:

Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.

(Brown, Brene (2010-09-20). The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (p. 50). Hazelden Publishing. Kindle Edition.)

She goes on to say:

Choosing authenticity means cultivating the courage to be imperfect, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable; exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made of strength and struggle; and nurturing the connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we believe that we are enough.

(Brown, Brene (2010-09-20). The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (p. 50). Hazelden Publishing. Kindle Edition.)

Her words touched my soul when she encouraged her readers to accept the affirmation, “I am enough!”

Since reading her book and letting go of who I thought I was supposed to be and embracing who I really am, I’ve felt so much peace. I’ve been able to connect with people better. I feel a sense of belonging too without throwing up some false actions on my part.

 

 

 

About the Author Michael Lantz (Big Papa)

The Wellness Warrior™; Health & Leadership/Business Coach, Speaker, Blogger, Author, Ironman Triathlete Helping others live with more health and joy, paying for their dreams and make a difference in the world! Learn more: http://HealthIsAHabit.live

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