There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind— you are the one who hears it. If you don’t understand this, you will try to figure out which of the many things the voice says is really you. People go through so many changes in the name of “trying to find myself.” They want to discover which of these voices, which of these aspects of their personality, is who they really are. The answer is simple: none of them. (1)
Is that statement a revelation to you? I know on my quest to improve all aspects of my life it was such an awesome discovery to learn that the voice that constantly was in my brain was not me at all. You may be asking yourself, like I asked myself, “If the voice is not mine, who’s is it?”
Thoughts are there to help us reconcile what is going on outside us. The paradox is that we have very little control on our outside environment. We know the sun will rise and fall tomorrow regardless of how we think about it. As Michael Singer states, “Eventually you will see that the real cause of problems is not life itself. It’s the commotion the mind makes about life that really causes problems.”
Now this raises a serious question: If so much of what the voice says is meaningless and unnecessary, then why does it even exist?
It’s there to help you feel more comfortable with the world around you. As Singer states, “Like backseat driving, it makes you feel as though things are more in your control. You’re walking outside in the winter, you start to shiver, and the voice says, “It’s cold!” Now how did that help you? You already knew it was cold. You’re the one who’s experiencing the cold. Why is it telling you this? You re-create the world within your mind because you can control your mind whereas you can’t control the world.” (Although when it’s cold I wish I could control the outside temperature.)
You therefore end up creating a mental representation of the world as you see and feel it. That, most of the time, is not true at all, but a filtered version of reality based upon all your past experiences and views on life.
What if you decided to quit doing this and you allow yourself to experience an unfiltered version of life? If you decide not to “narrate” and, instead, just “consciously” and with a “mental quietness” observe the world, you will feel more open and vulnerable.
Life is more full when we are open and vulnerable because our limitations are removed and we experience a bigger view, full of unlimited possibilities too.
Be abundant! Drop the voice! Live an unfiltered and limitless view of all your experiences! Connect on a deeper level with others and co-create all that you deserve!!!!
(1) Singer, Michael A. (2007-10-03). The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself