I met with a great long time friend last night. He’s a serious student of fitness. He’s 68 years old and looks 40 with 6% body fat. During his day he was a great marathon runner who has a Boston Marathon finish.
Then, unfortunately, developed a condition and had to have a knee replaced. That ended his running career.
Now he’s changed his focus to building muscle. He’s a self described gym rat.
He declared to me that he’s always wanted those “six pack” abs but that goal has been elusive. I asked him why he can’t do it.
He said he needs to give up a few of his bad nutrition habits he’s had for years.
He’s hooked on ice cream and sugar.
I asked him why he can’t quit.
He said, “I’ve tried. I’m hooked on it. If I could eliminate that from my diet, I’d lose the weight and my abs would show.”
Then I introduced him to the 12-Step Addiction Recovery Program that I run for our church. He looked at me kinda strange and shocked. But he listened. He never considered that the reason he can’t give up ice cream and sugar is that he is addicted to them.
I told him Step One is where you start.
The first step is Honesty. It reads, “Step 1: Admit that you, of yourself, are powerless to overcome your addiction and that your life has become unmanageable.”
Change always starts with with being honest. Most people who can’t change have excuses why. Excuses are deflections from some emotion inside that they do not want others to see.
Looking in that mirror of life and seeing the true reflection of yourself and affirming with complete honesty that you can’t change, you don’t know how and need help, is the first step to change.
Being honest is change and it’s the first step forward.