Have you ever felt stupid because you had to ask for help? Surprisingly, a lot of people feel this way and as a result, won’t ask for the things they want and even need. I felt this way for most of my life actually.
I’m not talking about asking for directions or how much the chicken sandwich combo costs. I’m talking about the big questions in life. Questions about how to improve your skills. Questions about how to make an impact on others. Or questions about how to overcome a major roadblock in your life.
Many married couples who struggle won’t even go to a counselor for help. They’ll try and solve it on their own and end up making the marriage worse.
I hope my offering of four solutions will help you overcome feeling like a chicken to ask and you’ll start to ask boldly for everything you need and want!
A few years ago when my son was deployed to Aphganistan as a Black Hawk pilot in the US Army I had some anxious moments. War now became very real for me. To think that an enemy wanted to kill my son was very worrisome to me. I had never really suffered from anxiety before or great fear.
During this same year, my business went through some major changes and my income was reduced. That caused a great deal of anxiety too. I had to really resolve this issue. It’s not good to live in fear and anxiety. These emotions just don’t feel very good. It was starting to consume me and I know from prior experience, what I focus on, I find. I was giving life to my fears and anxiety and had to get back to peace and joy, the two emotions I do best with.
That’s when I developed a strategy to remove these emotions. With practice, I was able to remove these negative emotions just about as fast as I got them. Let me share my discovery with you.
Replace Anxiety & Fear with Peace & Joy
There are six distinct steps in the 30-second process. I’ve discovered that I can’t exempt any of the steps. Trust me, I’ve tried. In the beginning, using this method it would take
Women have more options than ever before to earn income. While comparison pay with men still lags behind, our economy is forgiving and there are new innovating ways for women to earn more than men.
What profession has 5.3 million people (at the end of 2016) who are actively building income for themselves and 74% are women? The largest age segment in this innovated profession is between 35-44 (26%). The age segment that is catching up and the fastest growing is between 25-34.
My Experience With This Profession
When I was in high school I really didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do. My dad was a plumber and his dad before him. My dad did teach me how to use my hands and I’m forever grateful for that. He said there were only three things I needed to know to become a plumber; “Poop rolls downhill, the boss is an SOB, and payday is Friday.”
Goals setters see opportunity. Those that don’t have goals become skeptics.
Goal setters look for knowledge to accomplish their goals. Those that don’t never crack a book.
Goal setters are able to add value to others and make a better income. Those that don’t avoid helping others.
Goal setters are happier. Those that don’t never understand that happiness is something you create.
Goal setters preform actions leading to accomplishment. Those that don’t seek inaction and are always rewarded with nothing.
Goal setters are open to new relationships. Those that don’t avoid new relationships because they fear the worse.
Set goals. Don’t be one that doesn’t.
What Most People Really Need is a Good Listening to. Mary Lou Casey
How many times have you encountered a problem as a consumer? Something didn’t quite meet your expectation or you felt something amiss. Then as you approached the vendor or other person you felt could help you was disappointed at their lack of care.
Unfortunately we all have.
The truth is that all you really wanted was someone to care enough to listen. To understand you and feel empathy.
If you run a business or have to deal with customers or potential customers, the best marketing and branding tool you can ever deliver is just the simple act of listening to them.
Blow those chances to keep a promise, help someone or just plain care for them and you’ve lost a customer for life. One act of not caring can destroy years of valuable service.
As you build your brand, add caring by listening in your mix.