Would you rather have a dream job or a dream life? I know when I came out of college in December 1978 I wanted the dream job. I didn’t really think about what a dream life would be. I know today many young people who come out to college are just wishing for any job.
I wasn’t really taught that college was the only way back when I graduated high school in 1974. I don’t think that has really changed. My mom had a two year degree and became a nurse while my dad had no secondary education other than serving 4 years in the US Navy as a SeaBee (C/B for construction battalion). He became a plumber/pipefitter. When I graduated high school dad wanted me to become a plumber. Mom didn’t really care.
It took many years of working, most of the time either for myself or as a partner in a large CPA firm, before I longed for more. The accolades of my peers and clients was not fulfilling anymore and there was something missing in my life.
Upon much study and soul searching, I discovered what was missing; dreaming of much more abundance in my life and leaving a real legacy for others including my sons and grandchildren. I started to feel locked inside a system of deadlines, returning client calls and endless hours during tax season of transferring numbers on a piece of paper (a form 1040 US Income Tax Return) and sending it in to the IRS to settle up. What a waste of time I thought. I felt bad that my entrepreneurial clients who had to use their hard earned money on this process and getting no return. It would have been much better to invest that money in their business and create wealth. The government settle-up process of paying tax is a huge waste of resources.
A Dream Life
I had to get real with myself and exercise a lot of courage to make some life shifting decisions. Thankfully, the commitment and courage paid off and with much work I’m living my life on purpose and in many ways I’m living my dream.
Everybody’s dream life would be different. However there are some similarities. Here are my top five:
- You would embrace who you really were and not be what everyone else wanted you to be. You would accept your imperfections and realize they are really gifts. You would accept yourself and not need acceptance from others for your happiness. You’d be open to all possibilities and would easily be able to discern the truth you needed in order to go after your deepest passions.
- You would have superior health. Your health and fitness would allow you to pursue any physical challenge needed to accomplish your biggest desires.
- You would be completely free financially. This would allow you to live on purpose and be creative to serve your family and others. The concept of time would never be a constraint upon you.
- You would seek creative ways to provide value to others and serve them. Your happiness would grow as you were the instrument for others to achieve their dreams and goals.
- You’d live in the moment. You’d make each and everyday an adventure in itself. You’d freely share your knowledge with anyone open to accept it. You’d partner, in a way, with complete strangers and in a moment of sharing, become friends as if you had been friends your entire life
A Dream Job
A dream job would only be what would allow you a dream life.
The Ultimate Transition
Speaking only for myself but having experienced this transition in others I believe transitioning from having a dream job (or really any job) to a dream life is available to anyone. Here are the absolute steps that must be present:
- You must see clearly what your dream life would be. You must know how it feels and practice feeling that daily.
- You must believe in yourself. You must be authentic; embracing who you really are. You must say and believe, “I am enough!”
- You must do the things others are not willing to do to create financial freedom. This will be hard. You must face fear with complete courage before you move forward.
- You must express gratitude that everything in your life is a blessing; even your challenges.
- You must create a complete healthy lifestyle starting with what you eat.
It’s Worth It
Making major changes in your life may be very scary! They were for me too. What made them manageable is that you only need to make small changes every 90 days. Those small changes add up over time.
It will be worth it to you. I’ve asked many millionaires what was more important; the money you earned to become financially free or the person you became in the process. Without exception each has told me the exact same thing; the person they become was more important.
Once you understand this you’ll discover, as I have and many others who have achieved financial freedom, that the money and wealth come ONLY after you grow as a person. With that, working on making you better is key.
Don’t wish your life was easier, wish you were better!
You got this!