Are You Racing to the Bottom?

By Seth Godin (Go to his blog to read the post)

Shameless vs. shameful

There aren’t many fundamental human emotions, and shame is certainly one of them.

Shame is usually caused by a collision between our behavior and our culture. Society uses shame to enforce norms and set standards. When you’re alone in the forest, there’s not a lot of shame.

Too often, marketers, politicians and others with money and power use shame as a cudgel, as a harsh tool to gain control. And it’s usually directed at those least able to thrive in the face of this sort of onslaught.

I’m not sure we’d want to live in a culture where shameful behavior is completely accepted, where sociopaths and selfish short-term people abuse our trust.

At the same time, I think we need to be really clear about the difference between shameful behavior and shaming a person.

_shutterstock_648807352Shaming a person is a senseless shortcut. When we say to someone, “you’re never going to amount to anything,” when we act like we want to lock them up and throw away the key, when we conflate the behavior with the human–we’ve hurt everyone. We’ve killed dreams, eliminated possibility and broken any chance for a connection.

The alternative is to be really clear about which behavior crossed the line. To correct that behavior at the very same time we open the door for our fellow citizen to become the sort of person we’d like to engage with.

“How dare you,” is a fine way to establish that people like us don’t do things like that. It is a norm-setting device, a clear indication that certain behaviors aren’t welcome and demand an explanation.

shamingAs the media available to each of us turns just about every interaction into a worldwide,hyper-competitive conflict, there’s way too much shameless posturing and division. If you want to “win” in social media or politics, you’re no longer trying to be the class clown among twenty high school students, you’re racing to the bottom among a hundred million teenagers or candidates. Multiply that by every endeavor and you can see why there’s so much shameless posturing.

Racing to the top is far preferable. Because the problem with a race to the bottom is you might win. Or come in second, which is even worse.

Conquer Any FEAR or Anxiety in 30 Seconds

A few years ago when my son was deployed to Aphganistan as a Black Hawk pilot in the US Army I had some anxious moments. War now became very real for me. To think that an enemy wanted to kill my son was very worrisome to me. I had never really suffered from anxiety before or great fear.

During this same year, my business went through some major changes and my income was reduced. That caused a great deal of anxiety too. I had to really resolve this issue. It’s not good to live in fear and anxiety. These emotions just don’t feel very good. It was starting to consume me and I know from prior experience, what I focus on, I find. I was giving life to my fears and anxiety and had to get back to peace and joy, the two emotions I do best with.

That’s when I developed a strategy to remove these emotions. With practice, I was able to remove these negative emotions just about as fast as I got them. Let me share my discovery with you.

Replace Anxiety & Fear with Peace & Joy

There are six distinct steps in the 30-second process. I’ve discovered that I can’t exempt any of the steps. Trust me, I’ve tried. In the beginning, using this method it would take

Episode 022: Crave a Hot Relationship? | Blast Your Life with a Hot Relationship with these Three Essentials; Health, Food & Self!

artwork-templetDesire a PASSIONATE relationship! Have glamorous health! Be savvy with the food you eat and have an awesome self worth!

You know how to create good relationships. You have to spend time and care for it. You have to be tolerant and serve the other person. Use the concept of “relationship” as you develop a relationship with your health and food and exercise unconditional love for yourself.

Highlights of today’s show:

  • Build a meaningful relationship with your health
  • Look at food as a fuel with a heart!
  • Decouple food from connection; they are not the same
  • Unconditional love through building a relationship with yourself

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Episode 020: Never Give Up

artwork-templetWe do not get a do over for our life. We get one chance to either achieve success or not. We either keep going “until” we achieve what we desire or we quit and gain regret.

What keeps people going even against all odds? What will keep you in the game when it gets hard.

Some highlights of today’s show:

  • Winston Churchill and the Law of Victory
  • Focus on the end with passion and desire
  • With compassionate service towards others the supply of our abundance can be endless
  • Paying the price is always worth it
  • You either quit and end one form of suffer but you gain another more severe form; regret
  • Doing your best is not enough. You need to do what is necessary

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Episode 019: Attitude; the sweetener to our cake of life

artwork-templetWhat’s your attitude? It is has been said that your attitude will determine your altitude. While I don’t know if that is true, I do know that if you’re optimistic about every thing you do you’ll have great experiences.

Listen today as I share three experiences I’ve had in competing in the Ironman triathlon that taught me:

  • Compassion
  • Humor mixed with authenticity, and
  • Humility

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