Are you authentic? Why the word is overused.

Are You Authentic?

How would you really know? I don’t like labeling any person especially using the word “authentic.” While the word is adequate to describe their characteristics of being real, genuine or not a fake, it doesn’t help a person who lacks these desirable traits, to acquire them. A person who lacks traits of being real doesn’t even know they may not be real and that they are faking their own life. To them, faking is the only way they know how and they will have the deer in the headlights look when talking about this.

I’ve met several highly motivated people who claim they are authentic when it seems to me that they are faking it. Saying your are authentic and being authentic are two very different states.

I like using other traits to describe an authentic person. A real person has these desirable traits; self-love and personal unconditional acceptance of themselves and their imperfections. A person who lacks self-acceptance of their faults will understand the faults they have that they don’t accept and may be led to change. They may then be led to ask important questions such as, “I wonder how I begin to accept my own faults?” Or the best question they might ask, “How can I ever drop my guard and begin to share my faults with others without feeling ashamed of them?”

Self-love allows a person to exercise courage in being open and vulnerable. Lack of self-love, or another way to describe this state; conditional self-love, causes a person to believe they are not enough. I’m not smart enough. I’m not talented enough. I’m not worthy enough.

Shame is the underlying cause of not being authentic and acting in a way to please others. Shame is hidden in most people. Watch my next few videos, as I will teach you about shame and how to overcome it. I’ll teach you how it affects a child too. You’ll be a better self and much better parent.

 

Paying the price

I personally know three convicts. Each sentenced for different crimes. One served 2 years and the other two men served 5+ year sentences. One is still serving and slated to be released sometime next year.

One of them that served two years had a tough life upon returning home. He was married and his wife faithfully waited and supported him during his incarceration. I worked with him before he served his sentence. I worked with his wife during his absence and again with him after he returned home.

Unfortunately their marriage ended and several years of a tough child custody battle raged. In the end his wife was awarded primary custody of their children. It took a toll on her and the children. They didn’t really like being with him or his new wife afterward. After several hard years his wife is getting back on her feet and

Episode 020: Never Give Up

artwork-templetWe do not get a do over for our life. We get one chance to either achieve success or not. We either keep going “until” we achieve what we desire or we quit and gain regret.

What keeps people going even against all odds? What will keep you in the game when it gets hard.

Some highlights of today’s show:

  • Winston Churchill and the Law of Victory
  • Focus on the end with passion and desire
  • With compassionate service towards others the supply of our abundance can be endless
  • Paying the price is always worth it
  • You either quit and end one form of suffer but you gain another more severe form; regret
  • Doing your best is not enough. You need to do what is necessary

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Episode 019: Attitude; the sweetener to our cake of life

artwork-templetWhat’s your attitude? It is has been said that your attitude will determine your altitude. While I don’t know if that is true, I do know that if you’re optimistic about every thing you do you’ll have great experiences.

Listen today as I share three experiences I’ve had in competing in the Ironman triathlon that taught me:

  • Compassion
  • Humor mixed with authenticity, and
  • Humility

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Episode 018: Inspire; to breath life into someone’s dream, hopes and desire!


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Inspire

Which comes from the Latin “inspirare.” “Spirare,” means to breathe, and “in” implies into. To inspire is to breathe into. To breath life into another, we inspire their hopes, goals, and dreams.

Points to cover in the podcast:

  • How serotonin levels are affected to those giving, receiving and observing kindness
  • How water crystals are affected with positive thoughts and words
  • How were the Super Bowl winning Ravens inspired by a man in a wheelchair
  • Encourage is linked to inspire and what it’s meaning is to spread joy

Kevin Hall, Aspire: Discovering Your Purpose Through the Power of Words HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.

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