Paying the price

I personally know three convicts. Each sentenced for different crimes. One served 2 years and the other two men served 5+ year sentences. One is still serving and slated to be released sometime next year.

One of them that served two years had a tough life upon returning home. He was married and his wife faithfully waited and supported him during his incarceration. I worked with him before he served his sentence. I worked with his wife during his absence and again with him after he returned home.

Unfortunately their marriage ended and several years of a tough child custody battle raged. In the end his wife was awarded primary custody of their children. It took a toll on her and the children. They didn’t really like being with him or his new wife afterward. After several hard years his wife is getting back on her feet and

Searching for people to join with you?

When I was a boy I used to see hitchhikers all over the place. When our family drove from Las Vegas to Clinton, Oklahoma to visit grandma and grandpa you’d see hitchhikers all the way there.

How did I know they were hitchhiking? Of course they had their thumb sticking out.

But I also knew where they were headed because they held up a cardboard sign.

If we were headed to Oklahoma it wouldn’t make sense to pick up one going to Montana. It would be bad for both of us.

hitchhiker-88746-530-644As Seth Godin taught me, “If you’ve got people on your bus who are headed somewhere you have no intention of going, today might be a good day for them to get off the bus.”

Ever felt ashamed of your health and the way you look?

There is a way of life in the East called Genshai. It means to never treat another person in a manner that would make them feel small…..including yourself.

Our health is under attack. There are really evil companies producing products that would compromise your health for the sake of their profit.

Major food companies remove nutritional quality to make the food taste good so you’ll buy and eat it. Then after you eat enough of it your health deteriorates. Then with poor health, the medical profession just shoves a pill in you allowing you to eat more bad food. What a racket! It’s no wonder to me why the nation’s health care costs have gone from 1/20th of the US economy (1964) to 1/6 (2016)?

Then all these ripped models showing off lean bodies as if to say, “If you’re not like me then you are not cool. Buy my fitness plan and be cool.”

All of this is really shame. You feel like you are convicted. That being unhealthy is somehow substandard and a crime? People have disdain for overweight people more overweight than them self (insecurity, judgement and criticism with shame). Then the food ads suggest, “Eat my food and be cool because your life sucks! [shame]” Or, “Look like me because you look horrible! [shame]”

Yet ask others this question. Who is without guilt, without ever being less than perfect, cast the first judgement?

Do you know what would happen?

They would all have to leave. You’d be standing by yourself. Everyone is imperfect.

It’s okay to not be healthy. Why? Because standing alone you know you’re worthy of health. You’re worthy to give yourself some love. To disperse any shame you may feel. Shame will do more damage to your health than bad food and lifestyle ever will.

Practice Genshai and as you treat others so they won’t feel small, you’ll begin to treat yourself that way too.

I think you’re perfect. You can be made healthy just because you want to. That is pure perfection!

Now, feel big! You are pure Genshai!

 

The hardest thing to trust

I often wondered when I saw certain people who seemed to have what I wanted say that they just gave all that they could and was blessed with their abundance.

What? They gave all that they could and then they received?

“What principle is this?” I asked.

I thought it was about me “getting” my abundance. I couldn’t imagine just giving and giving. I thought once I gave it away it was gone forever. After all, men are just in life for them self.

Then something changed for me. I learned that this principle might be true.

Then I had that moment of test, “I’m on the edge of the cliff and if I want to fly, I have to jump off.”

I had to trust in something I couldn’t see. I’ve learned it’s called faith.

I grew up with the attitude that I couldn’t really trust anyone. Now, at the edge of the cliff, I had to bury that belief and jump.

Thankfully, I didn’t die after I jumped. I was scared though. I still am.

Have I successfully executed my test? Have I received more than I’ve given like people have shared had happened to them?

Yes, I have. I have been rewarded with self worth. I have been rewarded with the belief that I’m worthy of being the person who can be trusted. I’m equal in every way with all men and that abundance can be mine.

Imagine that? It’s all about trust. I learned that the reason I couldn’t trust this principle or trust others is because I didn’t trust myself.

Today I do trust. I don’t trust man. I trust the Creator of all. The more I give, the more I receive. In that order is the only way to make it work. That is the test.

Will it be scary for you at the edge of that cliff?

Starting over at age 72

A dear friend reached out to me. He said something I taught in a recent presentation he attended touched him. “I need to talk” he said.

The crutch of the conversation was that he was scared. He was uncertain.

Truthfully, he was facing a demon that has been with him since childhood.

As I asked him questions and shared some stories he made the biggest affirmation to me. He said, “I don’t know the answers anymore and I’m not sure I ever did.”

I’ve discovered that when I lived my life though the prism of pride, I only thought I knew the answers. Honestly, I’m scared too. I realize now that I don’t have any answers either. But, like my friend, I affirm openly that I don’t have any answer.

I reassured my friend that knowing he doesn’t have the answer will lead him now to ask. To take each day, one at a time. I believe the answers are always inside of each of us. While we don’t always see them on our time frame (the pride thing), they will always be revealed to us.

I believe God did make me in His image. Because of that, as I love myself as God loves me, unconditionally, He’ll ALWAYS reveal the answers to me. He’ll even reveal answers to me if I don’t unconditionally love myself. God is way cool that way!

I hugged my friend as we concluded and we expressed our love for each other. He said he felt better and now can see some light to start over.

I asked him if he unconditionally loved himself. He’ll have to explore that questions because that’s one he hasn’t been able to answer yet.

It will come. He’s a good person as I think all people are. Pride gets in the way of humility. Of being authentic. He is humble now. He wasn’t judging himself. He wasn’t judging others (at least not as much as he used to).

For me, I don’t have any answers. I do have lots of questions though. I’m scared to know that too yet I’m beginning to understand to trust my Creator to give me the answers when I’m ready to receive them.