There is a price to pay for success. Only you can define success and determine if you’re willing to pay the price for it.
If you’ve ever paid the price and succeeded then you’ll connect to the message. If you’re wanting success in your life this will give you the reality of what you’ll encounter along the way on getting there.
It seems to me that everyone has felt they weren’t good enough at one or more times in their life. I know I certainly have. At one time in my life, I felt this way all the time and it caused many undesirable behaviors and negative feelings. For me and others I’ve known and served, that belief was associated with not accepting all my imperfections. By not accepting all my imperfections, which most people have many, I began to hide and pretend. I hid due to the shame I carried and not wanting anyone to know for fear they would not accept me. That’s why I pretended to be someone other than my true self. Shame and self-love and acceptance can’t reside together. I can have guilt and self-love together. In fact, feeling guilty is a healthy form of self-love. Shame and guilt, though, are two very different emotions.
All humans crave connection with others. It’s our greatest need to be loved and accepted. Yet when I didn’t accept who I really was I pretended in the form of people pleasing, having to perform for others or aspired to be a perfectionist, in order to get people to accept me. I was always on the slippery ground and it was just a matter of time that my house came crashing down in the form of depression, closing myself off from people including my family, and passing over opportunities for growth, fun, and adventure. I ended up with the worse form of lack of self-acceptance, an addiction; the act of numbing a deep pain.
In my video, I describe one thing for you to do every day as a way to gain self-acceptance, even of your many imperfections. When you begin to accept all of yourself, you’ll free
Hope is such a great emotion! Perhaps its the greatest one. With hope a person can find joy and abundance. Yet without hope, life seems meaningless. If you or someone you know is struggling entering this new year my video message may give them back their hope. Or maybe you’d like to have more hope and understanding to really rock this year.
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It is important to believe in yourself. But what if you don’t really know who you are? You might believe in something that is false. Belief in a part of you that is really not who you are will cause discord and actually keep you from reaching your true potential.
Learn what’s more important than believing in yourself
John Bradshaw, The Inner Child as Regeneration
It’s more important to discover who you really are than to believe in your (false) self.
Through my own suffering and passing through the darkness I’m discovering who I really am. My inner child, like so many other people’s, was wounded though receiving my parent’s shame in my life. By discovering who you really are, who that inner child really is and is waiting for you to help him (her), you’ll discover that your belief in yourself will never again have to be developed. So many people say things like, “Be your own best friend” or “Believe in yourself” are missing an important element that needs to be dealt with and that is shame that may be deep inside and hidden. As John Bradshaw so perfectly explains in his video above, our inner child was placed in an environment of caregivers, schools, society and even religions, that attempted to mold it to meet it’s expectations and norms. That’s why we live in a society that is doing everything in it’s power to make you become anything other than who you really are. By exposing the shame and removing it through the method’s taught by John Bradshaw’s 10 part series or from a professional therapist trained in this approach, will allow you to become who you really are. By connecting to your inner child you’ll find out who you really are!
Have you ever experienced wanting a better life but couldn’t pull the trigger to proceed? What is that tiny little spark that exactly happens where you move from the dream to the action?
That tiny little voice that give you courage to proceed is the spark.
That little courage and action of hope is the spark.
That yearning for more and the knowledge it won’t be easy but you do it anyway is the spark.