Are You Racing to the Bottom?

By Seth Godin (Go to his blog to read the post)

Shameless vs. shameful

There aren’t many fundamental human emotions, and shame is certainly one of them.

Shame is usually caused by a collision between our behavior and our culture. Society uses shame to enforce norms and set standards. When you’re alone in the forest, there’s not a lot of shame.

Too often, marketers, politicians and others with money and power use shame as a cudgel, as a harsh tool to gain control. And it’s usually directed at those least able to thrive in the face of this sort of onslaught.

I’m not sure we’d want to live in a culture where shameful behavior is completely accepted, where sociopaths and selfish short-term people abuse our trust.

At the same time, I think we need to be really clear about the difference between shameful behavior and shaming a person.

_shutterstock_648807352Shaming a person is a senseless shortcut. When we say to someone, “you’re never going to amount to anything,” when we act like we want to lock them up and throw away the key, when we conflate the behavior with the human–we’ve hurt everyone. We’ve killed dreams, eliminated possibility and broken any chance for a connection.

The alternative is to be really clear about which behavior crossed the line. To correct that behavior at the very same time we open the door for our fellow citizen to become the sort of person we’d like to engage with.

“How dare you,” is a fine way to establish that people like us don’t do things like that. It is a norm-setting device, a clear indication that certain behaviors aren’t welcome and demand an explanation.

shamingAs the media available to each of us turns just about every interaction into a worldwide,hyper-competitive conflict, there’s way too much shameless posturing and division. If you want to “win” in social media or politics, you’re no longer trying to be the class clown among twenty high school students, you’re racing to the bottom among a hundred million teenagers or candidates. Multiply that by every endeavor and you can see why there’s so much shameless posturing.

Racing to the top is far preferable. Because the problem with a race to the bottom is you might win. Or come in second, which is even worse.

Is Newton’s Law helping you or stopping you from getting what you want?

The law of equal and opposite reaction is either helping you or stopping you from getting what you want. In this video, I link three principles together to help you start acting in accordance with these laws and you’ll start to get what you want.

Laws:

  • Newton’s law of equal and opposite reaction
  • The principle of living in the moment, and
  • The Law of Compensation

 

Fat bombs & a beautiful desert ride!

In this week’s cool stuff

  • Swimming faster
  • Level of ketosis after training hard
  • My son’s coming home safe from Iraq
  • My happy place riding in the desert
  • Keep my knowledge level high
  • Awesome fat bombs!

 

Your Inner Prostitute Child Teaches You Faith

Prostitute Inner Child?

Stay with me on this. You’ll learn a different perspective of the word ‘prostitute.’

We all have a Prostitute Inner Child that is there to teach us faith. Most people think that inner voice always tempting us to do the wrong thing is bad. It’s actually there to protect us and strengthen our faith.

By understanding this important part of our inner mind and heart, we can step back from making a poor choice and opt to select the strengthen our faith.

How to Maintain Focus when your mind is all over the place

Is Your Mind Hyperactive?

Do you find it hard to maintain focus when your mind is hyperactive? You’re not alone. First, don’t beat yourself up. A hyperactive mind is a great attribute to have. It shows you’re very creative and you allow all the great ideas to surface.

I have that same mentality. I’ve learned to let the thoughts flow. I’ve learned how to stop them at night (most of the time) so I’m able to sleep.

In my video, I’ll teach you the number one strategy to keep you focused. I’ve tried many and this one is the bomb and works the best.