Get Over Feeling Stupid for Asking for What You Want

Have you ever felt stupid because you had to ask for help? Surprisingly, a lot of people feel this way and as a result, won’t ask for the things they want and even need. I felt this way for most of my life actually.

I’m not talking about asking for directions or how much the chicken sandwich combo costs. I’m talking about the big questions in life. Questions about how to improve your skills. Questions about how to make an impact on others. Or questions about how to overcome a major roadblock in your life.

Many married couples who struggle won’t even go to a counselor for help. They’ll try and solve it on their own and end up making the marriage worse.

I hope my offering of four solutions will help you overcome feeling like a chicken to ask and you’ll start to ask boldly for everything you need and want!

Starting over at age 72

A dear friend reached out to me. He said something I taught in a recent presentation he attended touched him. “I need to talk” he said.

The crutch of the conversation was that he was scared. He was uncertain.

Truthfully, he was facing a demon that has been with him since childhood.

As I asked him questions and shared some stories he made the biggest affirmation to me. He said, “I don’t know the answers anymore and I’m not sure I ever did.”

I’ve discovered that when I lived my life though the prism of pride, I only thought I knew the answers. Honestly, I’m scared too. I realize now that I don’t have any answers either. But, like my friend, I affirm openly that I don’t have any answer.

I reassured my friend that knowing he doesn’t have the answer will lead him now to ask. To take each day, one at a time. I believe the answers are always inside of each of us. While we don’t always see them on our time frame (the pride thing), they will always be revealed to us.

I believe God did make me in His image. Because of that, as I love myself as God loves me, unconditionally, He’ll ALWAYS reveal the answers to me. He’ll even reveal answers to me if I don’t unconditionally love myself. God is way cool that way!

I hugged my friend as we concluded and we expressed our love for each other. He said he felt better and now can see some light to start over.

I asked him if he unconditionally loved himself. He’ll have to explore that questions because that’s one he hasn’t been able to answer yet.

It will come. He’s a good person as I think all people are. Pride gets in the way of humility. Of being authentic. He is humble now. He wasn’t judging himself. He wasn’t judging others (at least not as much as he used to).

For me, I don’t have any answers. I do have lots of questions though. I’m scared to know that too yet I’m beginning to understand to trust my Creator to give me the answers when I’m ready to receive them.