Are you authentic? Why the word is overused.

Are You Authentic?

How would you really know? I don’t like labeling any person especially using the word “authentic.” While the word is adequate to describe their characteristics of being real, genuine or not a fake, it doesn’t help a person who lacks these desirable traits, to acquire them. A person who lacks traits of being real doesn’t even know they may not be real and that they are faking their own life. To them, faking is the only way they know how and they will have the deer in the headlights look when talking about this.

I’ve met several highly motivated people who claim they are authentic when it seems to me that they are faking it. Saying your are authentic and being authentic are two very different states.

I like using other traits to describe an authentic person. A real person has these desirable traits; self-love and personal unconditional acceptance of themselves and their imperfections. A person who lacks self-acceptance of their faults will understand the faults they have that they don’t accept and may be led to change. They may then be led to ask important questions such as, “I wonder how I begin to accept my own faults?” Or the best question they might ask, “How can I ever drop my guard and begin to share my faults with others without feeling ashamed of them?”

Self-love allows a person to exercise courage in being open and vulnerable. Lack of self-love, or another way to describe this state; conditional self-love, causes a person to believe they are not enough. I’m not smart enough. I’m not talented enough. I’m not worthy enough.

Shame is the underlying cause of not being authentic and acting in a way to please others. Shame is hidden in most people. Watch my next few videos, as I will teach you about shame and how to overcome it. I’ll teach you how it affects a child too. You’ll be a better self and much better parent.

 

Paying the price

I personally know three convicts. Each sentenced for different crimes. One served 2 years and the other two men served 5+ year sentences. One is still serving and slated to be released sometime next year.

One of them that served two years had a tough life upon returning home. He was married and his wife faithfully waited and supported him during his incarceration. I worked with him before he served his sentence. I worked with his wife during his absence and again with him after he returned home.

Unfortunately their marriage ended and several years of a tough child custody battle raged. In the end his wife was awarded primary custody of their children. It took a toll on her and the children. They didn’t really like being with him or his new wife afterward. After several hard years his wife is getting back on her feet and

Ever felt ashamed of your health and the way you look?

There is a way of life in the East called Genshai. It means to never treat another person in a manner that would make them feel small…..including yourself.

Our health is under attack. There are really evil companies producing products that would compromise your health for the sake of their profit.

Major food companies remove nutritional quality to make the food taste good so you’ll buy and eat it. Then after you eat enough of it your health deteriorates. Then with poor health, the medical profession just shoves a pill in you allowing you to eat more bad food. What a racket! It’s no wonder to me why the nation’s health care costs have gone from 1/20th of the US economy (1964) to 1/6 (2016)?

Then all these ripped models showing off lean bodies as if to say, “If you’re not like me then you are not cool. Buy my fitness plan and be cool.”

All of this is really shame. You feel like you are convicted. That being unhealthy is somehow substandard and a crime? People have disdain for overweight people more overweight than them self (insecurity, judgement and criticism with shame). Then the food ads suggest, “Eat my food and be cool because your life sucks! [shame]” Or, “Look like me because you look horrible! [shame]”

Yet ask others this question. Who is without guilt, without ever being less than perfect, cast the first judgement?

Do you know what would happen?

They would all have to leave. You’d be standing by yourself. Everyone is imperfect.

It’s okay to not be healthy. Why? Because standing alone you know you’re worthy of health. You’re worthy to give yourself some love. To disperse any shame you may feel. Shame will do more damage to your health than bad food and lifestyle ever will.

Practice Genshai and as you treat others so they won’t feel small, you’ll begin to treat yourself that way too.

I think you’re perfect. You can be made healthy just because you want to. That is pure perfection!

Now, feel big! You are pure Genshai!